By Marwa Abdelfattah, Founder and CEO of CoAuthor

When I was a preschool teacher, I used to coauthor books with children one on one all the time. Not only did it spark their creativity, but it also strengthened my bond with them. Something remarkable happened every time: at least 5 more children would line up with a pen and paper to have their stories heard and written… They would say “I want you to do this with me too!”

You might think that writing down children’s words for them made them dependent on me. Actually, the result was quite the opposite. I became the children’s extended hand, a means for a story to be born and stay alive. Let me tell you briefly why “coauthoring” is magical:

1) Children feel respected and taken seriously:

Children feel incredibly appreciated and taken seriously when we (adults they trust) write down their spoken words in front of them. It is a way of telling them that their words are important to us and that we love and respect them. It is a way of listening to them with our ears and our hands. The bond that forms over this process is precious! We should all give it a go.

2. They start thinking of themselves as interesting individuals with interesting ideas

Beyond the emotional bond that forms over this process of writing down a child’s words on a piece of paper is another magical element. By witnessing us use our bodies and intellect to document their words, children start developing a self-concept. They start thinking of themselves as interesting individuals who have interesting ideas to share with the world. This strengthens their self-confidence and unleashes their creativity.

3. They see their speech translated into text and start looking at themselves as creators

When we write down children’s words and they see it, we make children’s thinking visible to them, to us and to others. When children see their spoken words magically turn into a text that has an audience (starting with YOU, a super engaged and interested audience), they see before their eyes how they have become authors, creators of something that did not exist minutes ago! This makes them want to create even more.

4. Children learn how to write by watching adults handwrite

No kidding, every single time I wrote down children’s stories in front of them, they would snatch the pen out of my hand and they would start “pretend writing” long paragraphs (which is different than when they try to draw their name or just one word).
Children like to imitate our adult habits! Handwriting in front of a child is a wonderful way to make them LOVE writing. For the sake of context, I would tweak Lev Vygotsky’s famous quote “children grow in the intellectual life of those around them” to “children grow in the intellectual habits of those around them.”

5. They understand that the purpose of literacy is communication

By going through this fun activity that requires imagining, talking, writing and reading, we communicate clearly to children the purpose of literacy: communication. They start looking at the acts of reading and writing as necessary tools to convey important ideas to an audience.
We all learn better when we can use our learning to lead better lives, when we understand through real-life context the purpose of the subjects we study.

6. Children borrow advanced language from us

By reflecting verbally on what the child has said, we are giving them a chance to hear the words again while they see them being reproduced in writing. When we extend children’s language or reflect it using more ‘adult’ ways to express an idea, we are offering them a chance to ‘borrow’ our language skills and become better communicators.

For example, in the illustration above, the adult changed Maddy to Maddy’s, gently offering the child important information about the construction of the possessive.

Be confident and try this out, only good things will come out of it. We created CoAuthor to help you write your child’s stories and ideas in a fun, bonding and educational way. Sign up for beta to start coauthoring right when we launch!

4 Thoughts on “Why You Should Write Your Child’s Stories in Front of them”

  • It is clear that there is no “natural law” that prescribes when learning to read, to write, to count, … (This is despite the “sequential determinism” that a reading, perhaps somewhat naive, of the ideas of the Swiss psychologist Jean Piaget introduced into the pedagogical environment of the second half of the last century.) We also know that nothing that is an imposition, in the absence of genuine motivation, can be a source of creativity and growth in the child’s mind. Quite the opposite. As Marwa Abdelfattah describes very well, the ability to express, communicate, mental empathy, can and should be fed and favored from the adult, that by giving to the child instruments of expression (verbalization, writing…) that the child does not yet possess, or possesses them in a still precarious phase, can gradually turn their childish “proto-languages” into more mature and rich forms of communication. However, the rhythm of these evolutionary processes can only be marked by the subject-child, real and concrete, and not one or the other of the models-scheme of child development to use.
    All of the above brings to mind the illuminating comments of the philosopher Daniel Moyal-Sharrock about Wittgenstein’s ideas about language and child (Moyal-Sarrock, D. 2007. Understandig Wittgenstein’s “On certainity”):
    “What the child who learns to replace his primitive reactions with words is “a new behavior” (F I, s.240). Natural reactions are replaced by modified action patterns. Thus, for example, the child learns to replace his initial cryofing with intentional gesticulation towards food and, finally, with more sophisticated requests, that is, linguistic.”
    In light of this approach, the practice of co-writing with the adult, would be in line to facilitate the most natural subsequent step possible, while affectively and cognitively more nutritious!
    W.W.

    • Thank you so much for the insightful comment! The quotes you included are definitely in line with our belief in modeling in early childhood.

  • Hi!
    I had been doing a similar practice in the past with my children. My motivation stemmed from a different reasoning but now I see that it had also other implications. I wanted them to create memories of our everyday life and to start to form full sentences. So each evening I would ask then to tell me to write something about that day. I thought that in the end they would take the habit of writing a diary. This didn’t work in the end but now we have a jar full of memories written on pieces of paper. In the end, I stopped because they resisted a lot and I couldn’t force them anymore. Maybe I should have persisted more and continued to write for them.

    • Thank you so much for sharing! This particular method is really meant for storytelling for a certain age. Children below 9 years old are telling stories most of the time and they really love it when we write down their stories : ) It’s great that you at least tried to do something similar.

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